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9 ways to keep the romance alive when you’re chronically ill

Hey there, hi there, ho there!

So last time we discussed how sometimes people forget that life for the chronically ill person is far more difficult than a carer’s. I briefly touched on how relationships can dwindle from lovers to a carer-patient relationship when your signifiant other is acting as your carer. So, with that in mind, let’s look at some ways you and your partner can keep things romantic even when chronic illness tries to intervene. A lot of the things I’m going to talk about can be applied to any couple that may have let the romance die out a little.


When you’ve been with someone a long time, sometimes you genuinely forget to kiss-even if you’re not chronically ill.

“Even just a quick touch of the lips.”

When you’re so busy concentrating on your illness and/or family life it can be easy to forget to just stop and have a moment together.



Do something together at least once a month.

Whether it’s getting in some alcohol free wine/beer, watching a romantic movie or having dinner together-make the time to spend a couple of hours together not talking about family/illness etc. Even a gentle stroll on the beach/ woods while holding hands can be just enough to keep that flame-a-flickering.

Go back to where you first met.

If it’s possible, go back to the place where you first clapped eyes on each other. Try and remember how you felt that day. Recreate your first date. Go to your friends house and help them get you ready.

“Have your partner pick you up or meet you at the place where you had your first dinner/drink together.”


Do something nice for each other.

It doesn’t have to be a birthday or a special occasion to do something nice for your significant other. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture or anything expensive. Write a love letter and leave it somewhere for them to find.  Make a playlist of all their favourite songs or songs that remind you of them. Run a bubble bath, light some candles and let them have some time to themselves.



Get some nice oils, light some candles and help get those pesky knots out. PLEASE do be careful if you’re massaging someone with a hyper mobility syndrome-last thing you want on your romantic night is to end up in A&E!

Go on a weekend break/holiday.

If you’re like me and are seriously affected by low pressures and crap weather, you might appreciate getting away to somewhere warm (but not humid).  A nice week away to the Mediterranean can give you and your partner a break from pain and all the other symptoms associated with your condition.

Renew your vows.

You don’t need to recreate your wedding day-unless you want to. You can simply organise to renew your vows with your priest/registrar/humanist. You can do it alone or just invite your close family and friends.


I love you.

Those three simple words should be said every day. Whether it’s first thing in the morning or last thing at night.

“Let your significant other know that they are loved.”

Just like kissing, sometimes it can be easy to forget to say it. Especially when brain fog is a factor of your illness. Set a reminder if you have to!

Sexy time.

If you can do it and want to, go for it. 90% of the time us spoonies don’t feel sexy or attractive. Sometimes you gotta make yourself look good on the outside to help you feel better on the inside. Make yourself feel sexy by having your hair/ make up done. Have a relaxing bath, shave your legs (if you want), get into a nice nighty or PJs. Do whatever makes you feel good about yourself. Sometimes after all that effort-the last thing you want to do is to do the horizontal mambo but if you still have some spoons left and you’re not in too much pain, use that last bit of energy to make lurve. Remember, you don’t have to necessarily have to “go all the way” sometimes some heavy petting can be just as nice.


Till next time,



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Recipe of the Month (July)-Home Made Big Mac

Our local McDonald’s was only 20 minutes away when I was growing up but I always loved when my mum would make a home made Big Mac at home. The sauce she used was a Marie Rose sauce but I loved the freshness and the effort my mum went to. Since the internet became awash with gross pictures and horror stories about McDonald’s, I have been totally turned off. It’s easily been two years since I sat and ate in a McDonald’s restaurant. Oh, but how I miss that burger sauce. I found a video online about how to make your own Big Mac. It’s the closest recipe I have ever found and it’s delicious!


For the patties:

Minced beef -2 patties per person

Onion salt

For the sauce:

1?2 cup of mayonaise

1 teaspoon of ketchup

2  tablespoons of mustard

1 tablespoon of finely chopped onion

4 teaspoons of Tomato relish

1 teaspoon of sugar

1 teaspoon of salt

What else you’ll need:



Sliced cheddar

Sesame seed burger buns

Baking paper

How to make the Big Mac

Step 1: The patties.

Put the mince beef into a mixing bowl and add a tablespoon of onion salt.

With your hands, work the onion salt into the meat. Then take just less than a handful of mince and roll into a ball. Place it on a chopping board covered with baking paper and flatten the ball into a pattie. Keep in mind that the patties will shrink so make them slightly bigger than the bun. For a true Maccy D’s pattie, flatten the living heck outta it.

Step 2: The “not so” secret sauce.

While the pan is heating up, mix all the ingredients for your sauce. Make sure to mix it well. The only lumps should be from the onion. The colour should be a pale orange.

Step 3: Constructing the burger.

While the burgers are cooking, it’s time to get your garnishes and buns ready. Lightly toast  two bottom buns and a top bun. Once the buns are toasted, put sauce, lettuce and cheese on the bottom bun. On the middle bun place sauce, lettuce and gherkins.

Once the burgers are cooked, place the first patty on the bottom bun and then place the middle bun on top of that. Then, place the second burger on top of the middle bun. Put the top bun on and voila!


Serve with over salted skinny fries for a real McDonald’s experience.

The only difference between this burger and the real Big Mac is how filling it is. I was stuffed! Normally I leave McDonald’s thinking of what to eat next as I’m normally hungry 20 minutes later. Maybe it’s the MSG? I dunno. I plan to play around with the sauce recipe to see if I can make a more nutritious version. If I’m successful, I’ll update this blog so check back in soon to see if I had any joy with that.


Until next time,